The needs of a young family and the demands of work are frequently at odds with each another. But for many, they need to co-exist. Parents want to be there for their children, but they also want and/or need to work and develop themselves.
As a result, a lot of parents struggle with guilt.
They don’t feel they’re committed enough to work, or they aren’t giving enough to their families. They look at the aspect of their life that they have deputised, for want of a better word, whilst they invest more of their time in what they have prioritised.
But what if we focused on where we are putting our energy, and fully committed to that?
Whatever your priority at the time, is the right thing for you. By giving yourself permission to own it you can enjoy it more.
The alternative is continual inner turmoil in which you feel bad about everything and don’t enjoy anything.
I know it sounds easier said than done, but if you can start by recognising what decisions you are making and why you are making them you will a) start living more mindfully and b) feel empowered by the decisions you make.
I started Peak Performance HR Ltd in 2018 and took it very slowly, fitting it in round the needs of the family. It was occasionally frustrating not being able to grow the business more quickly, but I had to remember my "why".
I knew that I wanted a business that reflected my values, gave me flexibility for my family, played to my strengths and generated a decent income.
And one of the greatest lessons I've learnt in the process?
You can’t be everything to everyone all the time, but you CAN own the choices you make and where you focus your energy at any given time.